Some days are harder than others. Some days it seems like it would be easier to just give up than to face what we are currently feeling.
Maybe you've lost someone you loved, or a job (which unfortunately is not uncommon these days), or maybe you did not achieve something that you wanted very badly.
Sometimes when we look back on a situation we can understand how something may have seemed bad at one time but somehow ended up to be something good for us.
Unfortunately. some of us get stuck in a cycle of looking back and staying in the pain of what we once experienced. We continue to replay it over and over in our mind. In reality, it doesn't just happen to us once, we experience it repeatedly. You may place blame on yourself, beat yourself up endlessly or blame someone else for something that's happened to you. Either way you can't move beyond that moment of time in your mind, body and soul.
So what can we do to try to equalize ourselves during these times when all we feel like doing is crawling into a hole or burrowing under the covers?
Take a step back and try to see a larger picture. Ask yourself some questions that may offer new insight to your situation. Here are a few examples:
What am I supposed to see and learn here?
How can this experience benefit me?
Can I find one good thing that came out of this?
Can I use this in any way to help myself or someone else?
Is there another opportunity here for me?
The biggest thing I have learned is in order to see the light at the end of a very dark tunnel, you have to find a compelling reason to do so. What did you love most about what you've lost or what you wanted to accomplish? Why? Let that be your reason for continuing and not giving up. Make the decision on purpose. If you feel that broken about something or someone, that's meaningful. Allow yourself to feel it and give you the strength and purpose to keep going. Open your heart to what else life has in store for you. If we close ourselves off, we can miss so much.
Even in my darkest moments, I've found something beautiful and good.
It was love. It shows up every time if you let it in.
Until next time,
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